"Unlocking Clarity and Growth: The Transformative Power of a Year of Celibacy"

Practicing celibacy for a year can be a transformative experience, offering insights and benefits across several areas of life. Here’s what it might reveal or help with: 

1. Clarity of Mind Focus on Priorities: 

Without the distractions or emotional complexities of sexual relationships, you may find it easier to focus on personal, professional, or spiritual goals. Self-Reflection: It allows time for introspection, helping you understand your deeper desires, boundaries, and relationship patterns. 

2. Emotional Growth Self-Worth: 

Celibacy can highlight whether you've been seeking validation or emotional fulfillment through sex or relationships. Healing and Recovery: It creates space to process past emotional wounds, leading to greater resilience and self-awareness. 

3. Improved Relationships Strengthened Non-Sexual Connections: By removing sex from the equation, you might deepen platonic friendships and familial bonds. Understanding Relationship Patterns: A break from physical intimacy can help identify unhealthy relationship habits or dependencies. 

4. Physical and Mental Discipline Control Over Impulses:
Choosing celibacy builds willpower and self-control, which can extend to other areas of life like diet, exercise, or managing stress. Heightened Awareness: Without the influence of sexual dynamics, you might gain a clearer understanding of your needs and the motivations of others. 

5. Spiritual Growth Deepened Spiritual Practices: 

Many people report enhanced meditation, prayer, or mindfulness practices during periods of celibacy. Connection to Higher Purpose: It can help align your actions with your values or spiritual beliefs. 

6. Reevaluation of Sexuality Intentionality: 

It allows you to reconsider what sex means to you and how you want it to function in your life and relationships. Reconnecting with Desire: After a period of abstinence, some people report a healthier and more intentional approach to sexual expression. 

7. Health Benefits Reduced Stress: 

Some find that avoiding the complexities of sexual relationships can lower anxiety or stress levels. Energy Reallocation: Celibacy can help redirect energy into hobbies, fitness, or personal development. 

Overall, a year of celibacy can serve as a reset, offering clarity, growth, and an opportunity to better understand yourself and your relationship with others.

Unraveling the Mystery: Why Your Partner Is Losing Interest in Intimacy?

Unraveling the Mystery: Why Is Your Partner Losing Interest in Intimacy?

The intricate dance of love and desire can sometimes falter, leaving you puzzled. 

So, if you find yourself wondering why your partner seems distant when it comes to intimacy, let’s delve deeper into some possible reasons that may shed light on the situation. 

Prepare to explore these nuanced factors that might hinder your passionate connection.

Examine Your Attitude
No matter how alluring your appearance or how stunning your outfit is, an uninviting attitude can put up walls that even the most devoted partner may find hard to cross. A negative demeanor, filled with complaints or bitterness, can cast a shadow over your allure. Remember, attraction thrives in a warm, positive environment. Nurturing a loving attitude not only enhances your charm but also ignites his desire.

Assess His Stress Levels
Intimacy is an intricate interplay of emotion and mental state. When stress weighs heavily on your partner’s mind, it can create a formidable barrier between him and his desire. Worries can cloud his ability to connect, making intimacy feel out of reach. Tuning into his emotional landscape might just unlock the door to revitalized passion.

Prioritize Hygiene
While it may seem straightforward, personal hygiene plays a pivotal role in intimacy. Your partner may yearn to explore every inch of your magnificent body, but if you neglect cleanliness, that desire could dwindle. Taking time for self-care, with regular showers and attention to grooming, can breathe new life into your intimate encounters.

Understand His Relationship with Pornography
In a world saturated with easy access to adult content, your husband may find himself ensnared in the allure of porn. If he leans heavily on this virtual stimulation, it can create an unspoken competition for your affection. If you feel your relationship is affected, approach the subject with compassion and understanding—encourage open communication rather than judgment, guiding him gently toward healthier habits.

Monitor Your Tone
The tone of voice we use can have an incredible impact—more than we often realize. If your words carry an edge or harshness, your husband might shy away, preferring the solace of late nights at work over the discomfort of confrontation. Ask yourself: does your communication foster a welcoming atmosphere? If he feels at ease in your company, his desire will naturally flourish.

Consider Your Reactions to His Advances
Past experiences can shape future interactions. If you’ve turned down his advances in the past, it can create a chilling effect over time. Men, like anyone, can grow weary of rejection. A consistent cold response can result in retreat, making it crucial to nurture those moments when intimacy beckons from both sides.

Be Mindful of Praise for Others
It’s natural to express admiration for those we hold in high esteem, but if you find yourself praising other men more than your husband, it can unintentionally wound his pride. Men's self-worth is often tied to their roles as providers and lovers. Be mindful that uplifted praise for others doesn’t overshadow the appreciation he craves from you.

Assess Public and Private Treatment
How you treat your partner, both in private and in public, can dramatically affect his self-esteem and desire. Disrespect or belittling comments in front of family or friends can erode his confidence, just as you would feel diminished by similar treatment. Cultivating respect and admiration, both privately and publicly, fosters a bond that enhances intimacy.

Evaluate the Quality of Your Connection
At the core of desire lies emotional intimacy. If you and your partner have been caught up in the daily grind of life—juggling responsibilities, work, and family—it’s easy for the emotional connection to wane. Take a step back and ask yourself: have you spent quality time together lately? Are you nurturing your friendship and emotional bond? Creating moments of genuine connection, such as date nights or heartfelt conversations, can rekindle the flame of desire. When you both feel emotionally fulfilled, physical intimacy will naturally follow.

Reflect on Life Changes or Transitions
Life is a series of transitions—new jobs, moving homes, parenting challenges, or health issues can all impact intimacy. If your partner is navigating a significant change, he might be too preoccupied or overwhelmed to engage sexually. Understanding and admitting that external factors can play a role is essential. Engaging in open discussions about how these changes affect both of you can bring you closer together and remind him that he isn’t alone in facing life’s challenges.

Understanding the intricacies of your partner’s desire can be a transformative journey for both partners. By nurturing a loving atmosphere, addressing underlying issues, and treating each other with respect, you can reignite that passionate spark. Remember, intimacy is a two-way street, and by fostering connection in both physical and emotional realms, you can pave the way toward a more fulfilling relationship.

💪🏾🙏🏾👑 Class dismissed!

💟 Rihanna - A Billion Reasons To Smile!

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The 31 year old Bajan sensation Rihanna "Riri" Fenty is in love and we couldn't be more happy for her.

In a recent interview Riri admitted to being in an exclusive relationship for over (2) two years. We did some digging; and she's been spotted a few times getting cozy with a tall, handsome, dark-haired guy, clearly of Middle Eastern descent. Let's admit she looks happy as hell.

His name is Hassan Jameel, a Saudi Arabian billionaire businessman who serves as the deputy president and Vice Chairman of the family business Abdul Latif Jameel, which owns Toyota distribution rights in Saudi Arabia. He is also the owner of a pro soccer league.

In a recent interview she stated:

"Yeah, I'm dating," "I'm actually in an exclusive relationship for quite some time, and it's going really well, so I'm happy." - Rihanna, Vogue Interview

Although their cultures are worlds apart, they seem to have found a common interest. As we know most middle eastern traditions are very strict from their dress codes, religion (Islam) to who they wed!

We are not sure what Jameel's situation is but hopefully Rihanna will take her time and find out if this is what she really wants, before she gets in too deep.

RELATIONSHIP HISTORY:

Drake (2010 - 2016)

Chris Brown (2007 - 2013)
Ryan Phillippe (2011 - 2012)

Matt Kemp (2010)

Josh Hartnett (2007 - 2008)

Negus Sealy (2001 - 2003)

So we all know Rihanna has dated quite a few famous guys in the past. We can't forget her toxic relationship with R&B singer Chris Brown, who left her physically and emotionally scarred.
It is said that Chris still loves Ri and upon hearing of her relationship with Jameel left him heartbroken. 💔

🖊 MY VIEW:
I think CB should let it go... some things you can never come back from. Even if Rihanna wanted to give Chris another chance; she not only knows it would be risking her life but, many folks that love her would be highly disappointed. I think she still cares a lot for CB, and may even still love him, but he blew his chances the first time.
Anywhoo, we wish all of them the best and will of course continue to keep you updated. 👍🏽

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TIPS: Be the Person You Want to Find: Love, Relationships, Dating!

Be the Person You Want to Find!

Let's get straight to the point, would you... date you?

We hear it all the time "I am looking for the perfect man or woman" or "He or she is just not good enough" but why should we demand qualities and physical attributes in a significant other that we don’t possess ourselves.

Women specifically are known to have a long list and check it twice when they enter into new relationships. This is a list we have had from the time we were teenagers. As we got older we continued to add or subtract from our equation of what makes up the perfect man, but I wonder if we look at ourselves and compare what we have to what is written on our list.

Come on guys! you can’t look for a perfect 10 when you are an 8.5. The saying that you should always look for someone to compliment you and not complete you holds true. When you have yourself together, a person who shares your same qualities will take notice of you because, of all the great things they see within them... in you. 
For example; you can’t want a mate who is intellectually sound when you can’t remember the last time you opened a book or viewed an educational program. You can’t want a mate who is spiritually strong when you can’t remember the last time you prayed, walked through a church door, or opened your bible. You especially can’t demand that a mate be physically fit when the only time you exercise is when you walk to the nearest subway.

What I am saying is before you critique anyone else’s shortcomings, you must first look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are able to offer everything for which you are asking. A mate should always be an option and not a necessity. Time invested in bettering yourself is priceless. Time invested in analyzing someone else’s flaws is a waste.

Love is something that most people want to experience, but love of self should always be the ultimate goal. Being confident in who you are and knowing that you have a lot to bring to the table will always attract others who have the same characteristics. A hypocrite is something that no one wants to be labeled, especially when it comes to what we demand versus what we can give in a relationship.

Instead of making a list for an ideal man or woman, make a list of what you feel the ideal mate should be and make sure you fit the profile before critiquing someone else. Never require what you can’t give in return.

Makes sense? I think so.

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UPDATE: CHAD ISSUES AN APOLOGY/ EVELYN LOZADA FILES FOR DIVORCE / CHAD'S ALLEGED MISTRESS

Woww! This has been a crazy! crazy! last few days 🙊 

Chad Johnson releases the following statement:

CHAD'S NEW TWITTER PIC

"I would like to apologize to everyone for the recent events that have occurred. I would like to wish Evelyn well and will never say anything bad about her because I truly love her to death. I will continue to be positive and train hard for another opportunity in the NFL. To all the fans and supporters I have disappointed, you have my sincerest apologies. I will stay positive and get through this tough period in my life."

Chad Johnson ‏@ochocinco

I haven't had to tread water in a long time... special thank you to my fans...family...friends for keeping me afloat...

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Chad is pictured leaving Jail on Sunday

UPDATE::: The saga continues, it is reported that Evelyn Lozada has filed for divorce. Did you see this coming? What ever happened to counseling before ending an ordained marriage? 

Only about a month after she and Chad Johnson were married on the island of St. Maarten in the Caribbean. Lozada reportedly filed the documents in Florida today, calling her marriage to Chad "Irretrievably Broken."

It is alleged that a woman by the name of Beverly Shiner, 30 years of age, from Boston, revealed that she dated Chad from January - May this year, during that time Evelyn was certainly planning her dream wedding.

Shiner made her first contact by following him on Twitter, she said that Chad sent a personal message to her with his number inviting her out for dinner.

"I Googled him before we met and saw he was engaged, but at the time there were reports that she had broken it off because she thought he was cheating, so I assumed they had split up."

She also claimed "While I was there he called Evelyn and asked if she could order a pizza to be delivered for him, and even had her pay for it on her credit card." 
"I thought it was odd and wondered if she was really his fiancee or just a secretary."

Interesting, I am guessing Chad Johnson will be issuing a statement soon. Stay tuned.  My! my!

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This is indeed a low time in Evelyn Lozada-Johnson's life, just days after dealing with the domestic dispute between her and her new husband Chad, Evelyn's brother-in-law has passed away after a long battle with cancer. 

You may remember on a episode of Basketball Wives, Ev became very emotional when speaking about Anthony Ochoa, who was married to Lozada's sister Sylvia. He managed to walk Evelyn up the isle on her wedding day which was her greatest wish. 

Now, Evelyn has released a statement regarding the domestic violence situation, saying she’s “deeply disappointed” in Chad. 



EVELYN'S STATEMENT: 

“It is with great sadness and much trepidation that I release this statement addressing the domestic violence incident that happened this past Saturday. I am deeply disappointed that Chad has failed to take responsibility for his actions and made false accusations against me, it is my sincere hope that he seeks the help he needs to overcome his troubles. Domestic violence is not okay and hopefully my taking a stand will help encourage other women to break their silence as well. I’m grateful to my family, friends and fans for the outpouring of support during this difficult time.”

Many people feel that Evelyn should be the last to speak of violence, due to her persona on reality tv show "Basketball Wives" where some referred to her as a bully. I do wonder if the newlyweds can and will overcome this unfortunate event.

911 recording of Evelyn by neighbor

Evelyn's Neighbor makes 911 call LISTEN HERE:




VH1 Issued This Statement:

As you’re probably well aware, Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson was arrested on Saturday night after a fight with wife Evelyn Lozada which resulted in a laceration to Lozada’s forehead. The couple was married on July 4 and their wedding plans were being documented for the upcoming series, Ev and Ocho, but in light of these recent events, VH1 has decided to cancel the series. The network’s statement regarding the decision is below.

“Due to the unfortunate events over the weekend and the seriousness of the allegations, VH1 is pulling the series ‘Ev and Ocho’ from its schedule and has no current plans of airing it.”

[Photo: Mike Colón/Getty Images]

UPDATE: Mean Mug:: Chad "Ocho Cinco" Johnson Mugshot

This must feel like a nightmare for both of them.

Chad "Ocho Cinco" Johnson was being held Saturday night in Broward County Jail where he will remain until he can appear before a judge, which may not be until Monday. He is charged with simple battery, domestic violence, which is a misdemeanor.

According to reports team officials were "aware of the situation and are in the process of gathering of relevant information," Dolphins spokesman Harvey Greene said.

Johnson's agent, Drew Rosenhaus, declined to comment.

Johnson signed with the Dolphins in June, four days after he was released by New England.

On Friday night in the Dolphins' 20-7 loss to Tampa Bay in the exhibition opener, Johnson let the only pass thrown to him slip through his hands.

To Multiple Date or Not...?

Multiple Dating:

Is Dating More Than 

One Person At-A-Time... OK?

What exactly does it mean to "Date"? I think we all can pretty much agree that a date refers to an activity that two people share, with the intention of getting to know each other better, on a potentially romantic level.

 

The bigger question that arises from this is, is it okay to date more than one persons at a time?' or is there a golden rule to dating, where it should be just 'one'?.

Yes, everyone has their view; some say dating more that one person is "fun". 

I asked ten persons what they thought, 8 of them said they would prefer an exclusive dating arrangement, in other words; dating one person before moving to the next.  

Whether it be 1 person or 5, there are a few things one should consider:

1. Honesty is still the best policy. Be honest with your dates. Let all involved know "if" you are dating other people.  It is important to encourage openness and remember even though this may or may not sit well with the other person, You must give a person the choice, to remain apart of your dating circle.

2.  Many feel that dating multiples may lead them to "Mr. or Mrs. right" faster! This may be true but you must remember it is the quality, and not the quantity or your dates that predicts the success of it. 

3. Not everyone can multitask, I advise those dating more than one person to keep a schedule; as to not get dates and times confused. Dating multiple people definitely takes more energy and time. I had a conversation with a female who admitted she had to go on two dates in one night because her signals got crossed. 

4. It is said one of the greatest reasons for having more dates is that it gives one the opportunity to make comparisons; seeing what works with one and what doesn't work with the other. I agree, that would help in your elimination process but, remember not to limit yourself to just those dates. Because one may not work out does not mean the other is the right choice! Your final decision should be based on good, sound judgements and what it is you are looking for in a partner.

5. Dating is fun... you may find dating multiples- boosts your confidence, it may make you feel like a teenager again. All of that is fine, but you must remember that your goal at the end of each date is to get to know the person's likes, dislikes, compatibilities, personal background and if you two share the same ideals. Always stay focus on your goal.

Those are just a few tips for you to ponder on. Whatever you decide remember to relax, have fun. Do not feel pressured into anything!

The purpose of dating whether it be (one, two or five) is to weed out wrong dates and have a winner at the end of the process, don't be afraid to express your feelings to your dates. It is important to maintain mutual respect and honesty all the time. 

Hey, and if either doesn't work out,  Keep it moving! You will find the right one eventually.

Rapper EVE: on Stevie J

Have you been wondering what Miss E.V.E has been up too these days?

Well, whatever it is she looks damn good!

I must admit when I first heard the name "Stevie J" on "Love and Hip Hop: Atlanta" it never dawned on me that it was E.v.e's Ex "Stevie J". Duh!
Anyway, while he and others are doing "Reality" Shows Eve was in her hometown Philadelphia "Philly" facing her own reality.

Eve was a participant at the "Uniquely You Summit: Becoming Who You Are!" while there she took part in an "Intimate Hour' where she shared with high school girls, her road of self discovery and also spoke her past relationship with Stevie J.

Eve admitted that he was her first love and explained how she had to search within herself to end that toxic relationship. She stated: 

"You know what, that was a learning experience, you meet people all the time. We just happen to fall in love. Umm, but thankfully I knew better. I know better. I am happily in love now."

She added, "and the girl now... he couldn’t even see this. I would be like, 'I’m sorry, we don’t speak the same language!'"

"When I was younger I didn’t question things, but now I am annoying! Not nagging, but, like, if something doesn’t feel right, speak up!" Eve offered advice to the young girls; "If you feel like you are being lied to, speak up! If you feel like sexually he is trying to push you too fast, speak up."

Eve offered a little advice to the young girls about being aware of signs and making good decisions pertaining to guys they allow in their life:

"Let me tell you something, anybody that knows you're worth it will stick around."

"They might not talk to you about it; they may talk to you about it. But if they argue with you or if they call you a name or if they roll out, they are not meant to be in your life anyways."

Thoughts:
Wow! I am so proud of her and many others who were in that type of situation (male or female). Guys can be in toxic relationships as well. I say move on NOW... you will wonder why you stayed in it so long! :)

Love & Relationships - Part 1

 ~ Love & Relationships ~ 

 We all know the basic keys to a Long, Healthy and Successful Relationship, but, sometimes we need a little reminder right? :) 

A healthy relationship must consist of:

1. APPRECIATION: Every human-being wants to feel appreciated. We expect it from our bosses, friends, children, family members, heck even our pets; so without a doubt we expect it from our significant other. The key is to put it into action. People say all the time "I appreciate you" but, think about it... if it's not seen or felt then to most it doesn't exist.
So why not buy a small gift every month, make offers to make your special someone's day a little easier; whether it be- offering to do the dishes, drive them to work, or rub their tired feet. :) There is much you can do, so you decide what suits you.


2. FORGIVENESS: This is probably the most common problem most couples face, some situations are simple, others more complex. Forgiveness is necessary if you want your relationship to elevate. Punishing, ignoring, and spitefulness won't work, it may make you feel better to give him/her a hard time, but it will eventually lead to resentment. Evaluate the situation and remember, forgiving someone is not just for them, but for your health as well.


3. COMMUNICATION: Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Ladies, remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Express your problem and then ask him to help you find the answer. Men, do not ignore a possible problem, you should know your partner well enough to know when something is bothering them, so inquire.

4. ACCEPTANCE: I understand there are some things your partner may do consistently to your annoyance, whether it's grinding their teeth, leaving the toilet seat up or when he/she leaves hair in the sink. The key is realizing that we are all imperfect. So instead of allowing yourself to become angry and cause a rift; help him/her find ways to resolve their personal peeves, put the toilet seat back down; doesn't he have to lift it up? then clean the sink with love, I guarantee you won't remember it minutes later. Realizing that we all have our faults and your partner comes with them.


5. PASSION: All relationships start with a certain level of passion. The key is to maintain it or if the flame was lost, find the things that existed in the beginning to light that fire again.
Do things that will most likely restore good feelings in your relationship; like, give your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile or hug once a week.


Did this help your situation? Let me know!

Justin Bieber & Selena Gomez: Broken Up or Not?

Rumours! rumours! and more rumours have been flying about Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez‘s relationship, indicating that the pair may be going through a rough patch. Despite what's floating in the "ear" the couple have been spotted recently and they looked more than happy together.  

So guys, believe more of what you see and less of what you hear. I guess. Deuces! :) 


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Gwyneth Paltrow Opens up...

Actress Gwyneth Paltrow opens about her feelings on adultery.

Cheating is always a hard topic to discuss, especially for us women. Celebrity mom, who has been married to Cold Play's Chris Martin for seven years, is in Venice promoting her new film 'Contagion'.
During a press interview, she shared her thoughts on the subject of cheating:
"I am a great romantic. But I also think you can be a romantic and a realist. Life is complicated and long and I know people that I respect and admire and look up to who have had extra-marital affairs."
Gwyneth says that she has learned to not be so quick to judge others:
"We're flawed -– we're human beings and sometimes you make choices that other people are going to judge. That's their problem, but I think that the more I live my life, the more I learn not to judge people for what they do. I think we're all trying our best, but life is complicated."
"I'm lucky -– I have a wonderful, blessed life. I have two fantastically delightful children and a very nice husband. Knock on wood!"
Do you keep your thoughts to yourself when it comes to friends cheating? Are you able to keep judgments at bay? The Lies Men Tell!