TIPS: Be the Person You Want to Find: Love, Relationships, Dating!

Be the Person You Want to Find!

Let's get straight to the point, would you... date you?

We hear it all the time "I am looking for the perfect man or woman" or "He or she is just not good enough" but why should we demand qualities and physical attributes in a significant other that we don’t possess ourselves.

Women specifically are known to have a long list and check it twice when they enter into new relationships. This is a list we have had from the time we were teenagers. As we got older we continued to add or subtract from our equation of what makes up the perfect man, but I wonder if we look at ourselves and compare what we have to what is written on our list.

Come on guys! you can’t look for a perfect 10 when you are an 8.5. The saying that you should always look for someone to compliment you and not complete you holds true. When you have yourself together, a person who shares your same qualities will take notice of you because, of all the great things they see within them... in you. 
For example; you can’t want a mate who is intellectually sound when you can’t remember the last time you opened a book or viewed an educational program. You can’t want a mate who is spiritually strong when you can’t remember the last time you prayed, walked through a church door, or opened your bible. You especially can’t demand that a mate be physically fit when the only time you exercise is when you walk to the nearest subway.

What I am saying is before you critique anyone else’s shortcomings, you must first look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are able to offer everything for which you are asking. A mate should always be an option and not a necessity. Time invested in bettering yourself is priceless. Time invested in analyzing someone else’s flaws is a waste.

Love is something that most people want to experience, but love of self should always be the ultimate goal. Being confident in who you are and knowing that you have a lot to bring to the table will always attract others who have the same characteristics. A hypocrite is something that no one wants to be labeled, especially when it comes to what we demand versus what we can give in a relationship.

Instead of making a list for an ideal man or woman, make a list of what you feel the ideal mate should be and make sure you fit the profile before critiquing someone else. Never require what you can’t give in return.

Makes sense? I think so.